Hi Sam, I've been reading your articles and really enjoying them! What is your evaluation of the idea that a child's most important need is for 'belonging and significance' and that all misbehaviours come from a mistaken effort to fulfil those particular needs? I have not found that to be a true or helpful premise to hold while working with my kids. That is one of the reasons why I chose P.E.T. instead of Positive Discipline when I was looking for a certification to pursue. P.E.T. teaches techniques to help the child tell you in his own words (or actions, if pre-verbal) what is actually wrong, so you don't need to make any assumptions. And of course it is also a non-punitive approach. I would
love to read a comparison between those like the one you did between RIE and Montessori!
Hi Heather! Thank you so much for the feedback, I'm glad you're enjoying them!
As of right now, I find the claim that belonging and significance is the primary desire of all people dubious at best. I agree more broadly, though, that a person's ideas drive their actions and that the vast majority of a *young* child's 'misbehavior' (~0-6) stems from unmet needs.
Thanks for the recommendation! I've heard great things about P.E.T. and I'm planning on doing a series on it soon (maybe next?) I think doing a comparison would be really fun and helpful as well, especially if I find some really key ideas that a lot of differences between them turn on.
Hi Sam, I've been reading your articles and really enjoying them! What is your evaluation of the idea that a child's most important need is for 'belonging and significance' and that all misbehaviours come from a mistaken effort to fulfil those particular needs? I have not found that to be a true or helpful premise to hold while working with my kids. That is one of the reasons why I chose P.E.T. instead of Positive Discipline when I was looking for a certification to pursue. P.E.T. teaches techniques to help the child tell you in his own words (or actions, if pre-verbal) what is actually wrong, so you don't need to make any assumptions. And of course it is also a non-punitive approach. I would
love to read a comparison between those like the one you did between RIE and Montessori!
Hi Heather! Thank you so much for the feedback, I'm glad you're enjoying them!
As of right now, I find the claim that belonging and significance is the primary desire of all people dubious at best. I agree more broadly, though, that a person's ideas drive their actions and that the vast majority of a *young* child's 'misbehavior' (~0-6) stems from unmet needs.
Thanks for the recommendation! I've heard great things about P.E.T. and I'm planning on doing a series on it soon (maybe next?) I think doing a comparison would be really fun and helpful as well, especially if I find some really key ideas that a lot of differences between them turn on.
Great article, Sam, very insightful (which is more than you can say for any of mine!)